Perplexed.

I am at a loss sometimes when I think of this lifestyle. I have been approached many times by guys telling me they like my profile and quite a few looking to submit to me. The ones from outside of my city I have been honest and turned down, I am not looking to have someone relocate. To the ones close to me I have tried to get to know them and understand what they are looking for and if we are compatible.

When I come across a compatible one I will converse via email or msn and go from there. My policy is always to meet in public first so they sub can see me in a non threatening environment and they have the option to leave if they like. What I don't understand is the fear in going that one step after talking for a while. How can someone be scared to meet me in public?

Lately two have stood out, there was one on Recon that I spoke to when I first joined and he sounded good even though I had a boy at the time. I did not turn him down but we spoke every now and then and he liked to be controlled online and told to do things. Well he had a death in the family, he says, and I gave him the time he needed. He approached me recently and asked if there was a chance he could meet me and I said there was. We spoke a few times online and I arranged a meet for a Sunday morning for coffee and in reply to my email all I got from him was "I won't be there, sorry.". The second was a 31 year old guy on Collarme who approached me awhile ago who was not very close but I spoke to him, he recently moved closer and wanted to submit. We spoke and I had arrange things for this weekend and he replied "I cannot wait to be at your feet Sir..." and then he goes and hides his profile. Nothing from him since.

This is why I am perplexed, I don't know why someone would approach me only to run. Are people that weak?

Speaking of weak boys I'll do a post about Kyle, he is truly pathetic but that is for another time.